Author: apfornes

The Knowing (R)Evolution: The Book!

Dear Ones: I am so excited to announce that I am working on a book to share the principles I have learned through my work teaching empathic intelligence and systems sensing over the past few years. I am actively writing it now, but you can get a preview HERE, featuring a story that you will recognize if you’re a reader of my blog.

Our Hearts Hold the Stories of Our Ancestors

<<THIS EVENT HAS PASSED>> RE:SOURCE Healing Constellations FREE INTRO: 6-8pm, Friday June 15 One-Day Retreat: 8am – 5pm, Saturday June 16 at Foundation of Light, Ithaca, NY Join Us for a Day of Personal Discovery and Healing! Click Here to Register Come to the FREE Introduction on Friday June 15 to learn more about how the stuck places in your life are related to the histories held in your body. Join us on June 16 for the One-Day Retreat to reveal and heal those stories. The full expression of our authentic selves includes our suffering, but our suffering does not define us. Our challenges contain information: stories from our personal, ancestral and soul systems that hold the key to our joy and our resources. During this retreat, you will have an opportunity to present a personal question. Using a group process in which everyone benefits, your inquiry is a guide that will lead us to the source of the issue so it can be seen and transformed. You are welcome here. Bring your whole self: your shadow and …

A Deep Commitment to Change

Accessing Your Empathic Intelligence to Transform Personal, Organizational and Social Systems. All living things possess the capacity to sense into their environment and respond in ways that place the individual in alignment with the health and well-being of the whole. This is true for all variety of life and at every scale: cell, organism, species, bioregion, and planet. We suffer when this capacity is disrupted. Every reader of this text is acutely aware of the disruption we are experiencing globally at this time. Yes, the causes are varied and complex. However, the heart of the problem is the fact that we – the animals with the most power to impact the earth – have lost connection with our natural ability to perceive, interpret and respond to subtle (and not so subtle) messages in our environment. When you regain the capacity of your empathic intelligence, the complex, invisible of web connections and relationships that hold old systems in place becomes revealed, allowing the establishment of new connections that nourish and support wholeness. And, because your empathic …

Purpose Driven? Pleasure Driven!

I have been actively working for social change since 1991, when I started facilitating intergroup dialogue as an undergraduate at the University of Michigan. My work has evolved today with the powerful practice of systemic constellations. After all this time, I certainly understand how easy it is to feel disturbed at the state of our society and of the planet. But I have such a deep knowing not only of our collective capacity, but also of the tremendous earth and spiritual resources available to us. With this knowing, I cannot despair. I also know that I can best be of service when I am present and open, when I allow my spirit and emotions to respond authentically to what arises, and when I work from my intuition as well as my intellect. Taking all of this into account, I find that when an individual or group presents a challenge their heart aches to resolve – I feel JOY! Yes, joy! Because I KNOW that we will enter that challenge and come through the journey with …

New Ways of Knowing

July 16-19, 2017 at Knoll Farm Refuge in Fayston Vermont Bring your open heart – and your cautious one. Bring your curiosity – and your challenges. Bring your joy – and your grief. Come with the questions that are alive for you.  There is only one requirement: the willingness to enter the doorway of presence and meet what arises. ~What to expect~ Expand how you know through presence, empathy and body-awareness.  Engage in collective practices that generate illuminating discoveries about personal and collective challenges, and reveal new paths forward. Return home with powerful new tools and a new community of practice.  At the New Ways of Knowing retreat, we will focus on dismantling what we consider to be the core illusion that maintains dominant systems: the belief that we are separate. Through practices that engage presence, empathy and body-awareness, you will discover how to go beyond the individual into the collective, generating what we playfully call the “group oracle”. You will have a profound experience of our interconnection, one that will enrich and expand your worldview. When we can see the world through the …

Rage, Grief and Activism

The Constellation I was one of a small group of facilitators invited to do a systemic constellation around racism. The facilitator, Judy Wallace, asked us to generate a list of what should be represented. With the group size we had, we decided on White Power, Black Bodies, Child, Earth, Poor White Person. I was the one who named “black bodies”. It came out of a recognition that had been stirring for months – that the painful legacy of slavery and racism from its origins through today is defined by the dehumanizing practice of simultaneously valuing and fearing black bodies, but which in my experience was rarely spoken of. Representing black bodies, I found myself circling the center of the room, while white power stood just outside my circle. White power had a calm but piercing attention on the other white people in the room. Both white child and poor white person were not eager to align with white power, though white power was happy to include them in his power.  As I circled the room, I felt numb, moving …

A Truth and a Lie

“Help! I need an emergency consultation!” The person calling is a wise and thoughtful leader in her organization. She explained that she was amidst end of year fundraising, and scheduling meetings to review her organization’s performance and direction. But the reason for her call was that she was angry, and she couldn’t get over it. She had been meditating daily and taking long walks in the woods. She was reflecting on her own mistakes and how to improve, she was empathizing with her colleagues and how they experienced the year. Yet every morning, she would wake with a rising anger at two of her closest colleagues. Several months earlier, disagreements and misunderstandings had created a painful rift that continued to deepen. She called me wanting help, because she knew that she would not be able to address the larger needs and mission of her organization if this conflict continued. Hidden dynamics. People come to me because the work I do as a systemic constellations facilitator reveals the unseen dynamics driving our conflicts. These dynamics are …